It's not bad luck.

It's not a type.

It's a pattern your nervous system learned before you were old enough to question it.

And it fires in the smallest moments, the text you send when he goes quiet, the way you make yourself smaller when things feel uncertain, the man you can't stop thinking about even though you know he's not good for you.

I call these patterns Love Modes.

And every woman has one. It's the automatic thing you do in relationships before your brain has caught up.

These aren't character flaws. They're survival strategies that made sense once. The problem is they're still running now.

This quiz tells you which one is yours.

The Yearning Romantic who mistakes intensity for intimacy.
The Overfunctioner who carries the whole relationship and quietly resents it.
The Needless Woman who's been "seeing someone" for six months and still hasn't asked where it's going.
The Self-Protector who hasn't dated in two years because she doesn't trust herself not to do it again.

These aren't character flaws. They're survival strategies that made sense once. The problem is they're still running now.

This quiz tells you which one is yours.

How it Works

This quiz has been developed from 20 years of clinical work with women who keep attracting the wrong men, and can't understand why.

In 10 questions it identifies the pattern running your love life right now, and delivers your personalised result straight to your inbox.

It takes just 3 minutes

It's completely free

Your result is delivered privately to your inbox

"I finally understood it wasn't about me, it was my pattern. That changed everything."

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"I was the classic case of an executive woman, high achiever, young family, nice home. People thought I lived the dream life. But I wasn't happy on the inside. I was burnt out, a people pleaser, in an unhealthy relationship, and I felt completely numb. My life trajectory completely changed the first day I set foot in Justine's office."

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"Within a year of working with Justine, I met my kind and loving partner. She helped me understand my relationship patterns, recognise red flags, and advocate for my needs. My life has changed for the better."

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Who Am I?

I'm Dr Justine Corry, former clinical psychologist, schema therapist, and relationship coach with 20 years of clinical experience working with women on their relationship patterns.

I created this quiz because the women I work with are smart, self-aware, and have usually already tried therapy, read the books, and know their attachment style. But knowing the pattern isn't the same as being able to catch it in the moment it fires.

What's Your Love Mode? gives you the specific name for what's running your relationships right now, so you can start noticing it in real time, not just in hindsight.

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